I have been thinking a lot lately about TTC Baby#2. Joe and I had agreed to wait until Ethan turned 2, and I still think that is a good plan (for the most part). I really would like to go off the pill now so that my cycles could become regulated before we seriously started TTC. If I happened to get pregnant right away, my due date would be around July or August. Ethan would then be 28 months old. If we wait until Ethan turns 2, I wouldn't have the baby until Ethan was 3 or older (depending on how long it takes to get pregnant).
Joe and I wanted Ethan and Baby #2 to be 2 1/2 to 3 years apart, so my feeling is that I should go off the pill and have a couple months to regulate my cycle. The hard part? Talking to Joe about this! I wish sometimes he could read my blog! LOL
You see, Joe was never one of these men who just couldn't wait to have children. He had a very rough childhood and he never wanted to make any of the mistakes that his parents made. I know he was extremely tentative about fatherhood. He isn't the type who tears up or goes crazy over a newborn baby. Don't get me wrong: he adores Ethan and he loves being his daddy, but I am not sure how he feels about a second child. We've always agreed to have 2 because we feel it's so important for Ethan to have a sibling, but I know he's scared.
I'm scared too. I'm scared that I won't be able to handle 2 small children. I'm scared that we won't be able to handle it financially. I'm scared to gain weight again and have another high-risk pregnancy. I'm scared that our house is too small for 2 children. The list goes on and on. Even though I'm scared, I am also excited about bringing another child into our family and sharing our lives as a family of 4. I am excited to watch Ethan and his little brother/sister play together.
I feel like I don't want to wait 5 months before I even go off the pill. I am 31. Although that's not all that old, I know that pregnancy is harder on your body the older you get. I'd like to avoid having gestational diabetes and high blood pressure and bed rest. I'm trying very hard to lose weight, hoping to be down to a reasonable weight by February.
Any advice for me? Should I suck it up and wait until February to go off the pill since that was the original "plan"? Or should I try to talk to Joe and convince him that I should go off the pill now?
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My two cents..... talk to Joe, go off the pill and use other birth control if you don't want to get pregnant right away. How long did it take you to get pregnant with Ethan?? If you had difficulty getting pregnant with Ethan, you could have difficulty again. Mine are a month and a half shy of being 3 years apart.
Laura,
I would at least talk to Joe about it. Just to see what he thinks. You can share your thoughts and feelings about it, you never know, he may be open to the idea of you going off of birth control. When I first had "baby fever" I was so nervous to talk to Corey about it (why, I don't know, but I was). I was so surprised when I first brought it up and gave him the facts that he agreed right away. Anyhow, without writing a novel here, talk to him first, you might be pleasantly surprised.
Good luck! :)
First Laura! Get that Kidney Stone taken care of 1st!!! OMG! Don't get pregnant and have to suffer because you can't do ANYTHING when pregnant. With Damien I basically had to suck it up because I'm one that totally does not like to take meds when pregnant especially with how early I was.
I agree with Rhonda and Deanne. Talk to him and let him know what you are feeling but don't pester over and over because it'll get you no where (at least with my experience) Dave is the same way about pregnancy. Each kiddo though he's gotten more into it only the part of saying "hey we're having another." But as far as being real excited when I show him a positive test he's more like, "oh shit." LOL
Let us know how the baby talk goes!
I agree with all of the above! Go ahead and bring it up. Ethan is pretty close to being two, and what are the chances you'll get pregnant RIGHT AWAY, right? :) If you do, then what would it really change? So you'd have a baby 5 months earlier than planned....in the grand scheme of things, that won't really matter.
As for worrying about all the other...you know, there is never a good time in our lives to have a baby. I know that sounds funny. But the truth is, we never have enough money. We never have enough time. We could always be more fit, or healthier. Things tend to take care of themselves, though, when the baby's on its way!
It might be a good idea to wait until the stone has passed, though, like Sabrina said. Also, I'll bet you'll continue to be extra motivated with the weight loss program when you are actively TTC.
Love,
Sara
(Who can't wait to see the next little bumpkin!)
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